Wednesday, November 12, 2014

Yes, Sir.

You could call it please pleasing. You could call it not having a back bone. I like to think of it as being agreeable. However you slice it or dice it, I am a "yes" person. I don't like disappointing people. I do not like letting people down. I prefer to just make everyone happy.

No matter what kind of a fancy pants spin you put on it - it is not a good trait to have.
 Allow me to explain a bit. 
I want people to like me. I want people to be happy. I do not want people to fight. I do not want people to be mad at me. So I go to all kinds of lengths to avoid that. I will figure out a way to make their request happen no matter what. Even if that means lying. In fact, sometimes, when a situation pops up the lies to make the situation better flow outta me before I have a chance to stop them.

For example, I arrive to a friend's house and they assumed I was going to bring something. Even if they didn't communicate this to me I instantly start to say "oh no I completely forgot!" What? Why? I didn't forget. I just don't want them to feel bad.

Example number 2, someone asks me to help them do X activity. But I really do not want to. But I do it anyway. I help them, I go there, I do this, I change my plans. Why? Why? Am I such a people pleaser?

This is the long and the short of it, my friend. I am afraid to speak up. I am afraid. This fear turns me into a CRAZY PERSON!

So, I guess that's it! This is a confessional of sorts. They say admitting it is the first step. What about you? Are you a People Pleaser? 
PS this is an old picture but I thin kin' about bangs again. Thoughts? 

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  1. I used to be a lot like this. I'm not sure when exactly it changed, but I realized at some point that I was making myself too crazy trying to please everyone. I think finding a happy medium is key. Becca at Becoming Adorrable said it best here: I think. :) I hope you can find a happy medium and don't make yourself go crazy!

  2. I am such a people pleaser... it has its good sides & bad sides...
    You need to read Lysa TerKuerst book "The Best Yes" ... I'm learning from it.

  3. Oh my me too! I always complain about this. I hate that I always say yes to plans I never want to do. I'm getting better but it's still so hard.

  4. Haha I do the same thing! I'm trying to getting better at just saying no. lol
    Melanie @

  5. oh great post! Thanks for sharing! I am working on it and as I get older I find it easier to say NO

  6. oh that sounds great! Thanks for the suggestion!

  7. why is it SO hard??? I seriously wish it wasn't that hard! But it is!

  8. I wish it wasn't so hard! hopefully over time we will get better at it!

  9. Love your honesty!'s ok to say NO! Try it sometime, it's actually quite freeing. ;)

  10. Thank you, Amy! I am certainly trying my best! :) :)

  11. I hate saying no too, but sometimes being a little bit selfish is 100% worth it! I mean, we all have to do what's going to make us the happiest so we can be happy, functional human beings, and I want to live without regret too, and sometimes that means putting myself first. Try it in little steps for a while and see how you do!


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