Monday, February 2, 2015

Marriage & Relationship Goals - Link Up

When Charlene  asked me to cohost with her for the Marriage and Relationship goals link up I was so excited!  So, thank you again for thinking of me! 
Charlene said the girls had previously done their post on their word of the year. I haven't done a post on my word of the year yet so I thought it was a great idea.

My word of the year for 2015 is: Try.

I am, and always have been, a quitter. I am a perfectionist, I hate being embarrassed, I hate failing so I usually don't try anything unless I know 100% I am going to be really good at it. 

I know this is a terrible outlook on life, however this is my outlook. Ever since I started doing yoga my outlook has shifted. There are so many goals I have for yoga, so many poses I want to get into. But they are all so hard and I figure "I can never get there" So I wouldn't even try. Well then something crazy happened: I tried. I tried different poses and even though I was SO far from them..every time I tried I got a little bit closer. Boom. My whole life was changed. Seriously.

So- how this translates into every area of my life, even my marriage? I need to try to be better. I am not a good cook at all. So I usually just don't cook. I am not sure I know how to plan an awesome date night for my husband so I usually don't. I let him do the planning. 

A few months back I found this post this on The Kardia Blog. I thought it was a great idea so I printed it out, gave it to Philip, and had him highlight the ones he liked the most.

Ya know what? I was too afraid to read it for a few days. I was afraid I was completely failing as a wife and reading this list would be like a giant reminder that I wasn't loving Philip as I should.

When I read it, it made me think "I can never do all of those things!" This is pre-new life perspective happened ok?

Now, looking back on these ideas I think "I can do that!" I just want to be the best wife I can be to that man. 

So these are my goals in relation to "try" and based on the list I asked him to fill out for me. 

1. TRY to plan at least 1 date night this month.
2. TRY to start a prayer journal this month.
3. TRY to not ask him to do a bunch of chores around the house on his day off. 
4. TRY to not put too much pressure on myself to the perfect wife and then take it out on Philip when I inevitably fail. 

I say TRY because I just know I am not going to be perfect, and I might not actually get to do all of these things. But I want to try. 

What are your marriage or relationship goals? For this month? This year? 

Marriage & Relationship Goals

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  1. Great things and a great reminder we can do none of those things without the Lord's help.

  2. I'm so excited that you've joined us this month and I'm super excited for your goal!! :) Looking at all of the things we need to improve on at once can be overwhelming and seem impossible, but if you tackle one thing at once, you can do it!! :) :)

  3. I am the exact same way! I'm used to a lot of things coming naturally to me so when I'm not good at something, I usually give up right away or get very frustrated with myself. I think your word for the year is such a good one! I'm going to have to check out that list you found.

  4. My daughter is the same way and I have a hard time with her perfectionism. But I love TRY. I'm going to challenge her with this and maybe offer rewards (bribes) for when she does!!

  5. This is fantastic! I'm for sure going to check out that post. What a great idea to just ask your husband what he'd like from you as a wife. I love that you admit you may fail, but that's OK - the effort is what's worth it.

  6. I LOVE this new outlook on life! I think your goals are great and even if you don't succeed in all of them, you're trying and that's certainly better than not trying. I especially love the one about not putting too much pressure on yourself. We cannot be "perfect wives" because nobody is perfect. But we can sure try and that's what counts! Thanks so much for co-hosting!

  7. Thank you for letting me join this month! Such a great great link up to be apart of! One day at a time!

  8. I love the list it is so good, you gotta check it out! It is so easy to give up as a perfectionist - I fight it everyday. But my outlook on life has completely changed my life!

  9. try it! And let me know how it goes! it has radically changed my life!

  10. Thank you, Amanda! I don't like to paint a picture of what I wish I was - this is who I am. With God's help I try everyday to be better!

  11. Thank you so much for asking me to co-host! It was so cool! It made me really think about my marriage and coming up with goals was so challenging but so nice.


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