When Charlene asked me to cohost with her for the Marriage and Relationship goals link up I was so excited! So, thank you again for thinking of me!
Charlene said the girls had previously done their post on their word of the year. I haven't done a post on my word of the year yet so I thought it was a great idea.
My word of the year for 2015 is: Try.
I am, and always have been, a quitter. I am a perfectionist, I hate being embarrassed, I hate failing so I usually don't try anything unless I know 100% I am going to be really good at it.
I know this is a terrible outlook on life, however this is my outlook. Ever since I started doing yoga my outlook has shifted. There are so many goals I have for yoga, so many poses I want to get into. But they are all so hard and I figure "I can never get there" So I wouldn't even try. Well then something crazy happened: I tried. I tried different poses and even though I was SO far from them..every time I tried I got a little bit closer. Boom. My whole life was changed. Seriously.
So- how this translates into every area of my life, even my marriage? I need to try to be better. I am not a good cook at all. So I usually just don't cook. I am not sure I know how to plan an awesome date night for my husband so I usually don't. I let him do the planning.
A few months back I found this post this on The Kardia Blog. I thought it was a great idea so I printed it out, gave it to Philip, and had him highlight the ones he liked the most.
Ya know what? I was too afraid to read it for a few days. I was afraid I was completely failing as a wife and reading this list would be like a giant reminder that I wasn't loving Philip as I should.
When I read it, it made me think "I can never do all of those things!" This is pre-new life perspective happened ok?
Now, looking back on these ideas I think "I can do that!" I just want to be the best wife I can be to that man.
So these are my goals in relation to "try" and based on the list I asked him to fill out for me.
1. TRY to plan at least 1 date night this month.
2. TRY to start a prayer journal this month.
3. TRY to not ask him to do a bunch of chores around the house on his day off.
4. TRY to not put too much pressure on myself to the perfect wife and then take it out on Philip when I inevitably fail.
I say TRY because I just know I am not going to be perfect, and I might not actually get to do all of these things. But I want to try.
What are your marriage or relationship goals? For this month? This year?
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