Wednesday, November 12, 2014

Yes, Sir.


You could call it please pleasing. You could call it not having a back bone. I like to think of it as being agreeable. However you slice it or dice it, I am a "yes" person. I don't like disappointing people. I do not like letting people down. I prefer to just make everyone happy.

No matter what kind of a fancy pants spin you put on it - it is not a good trait to have.
 Allow me to explain a bit. 
I want people to like me. I want people to be happy. I do not want people to fight. I do not want people to be mad at me. So I go to all kinds of lengths to avoid that. I will figure out a way to make their request happen no matter what. Even if that means lying. In fact, sometimes, when a situation pops up the lies to make the situation better flow outta me before I have a chance to stop them.

For example, I arrive to a friend's house and they assumed I was going to bring something. Even if they didn't communicate this to me I instantly start to say "oh no I completely forgot!" What? Why? I didn't forget. I just don't want them to feel bad.

Example number 2, someone asks me to help them do X activity. But I really do not want to. But I do it anyway. I help them, I go there, I do this, I change my plans. Why? Why? Am I such a people pleaser?

BECAUSE I AM A GIANT WUSS!
This is the long and the short of it, my friend. I am afraid to speak up. I am afraid. This fear turns me into a CRAZY PERSON!



So, I guess that's it! This is a confessional of sorts. They say admitting it is the first step. What about you? Are you a People Pleaser? 
PS this is an old picture but I thin kin' about bangs again. Thoughts? 


The Walker Fireside Chats

Tuesday, November 11, 2014

Living Room - Home Tour!

I didn't get tagged in any sort of home tour post. I didn't get asked to show pictures of my house. 
That didn't stop me, no sir!  I just wanted to post a few pictures of my home! My hubs and I worked so hard to decorate it to show our personality and I am finally sorta good with it so I wanted to share!

If you ever came over to my house I would make you come in and sit on my impossibly comfy couches while I made you a cup of coffee or tea!

Maybe we would watch a movie or TV. Most likely, though, I would rather talk to you and chat.



This picture wall took hours to complete! But, I kinda love it.


My Mother in law painted these guitar pictures for Philip a while ago but I think they are awesome so I took them from his parents house and put them up in our house.

That's it! That's the extent of my living room! Small but cozy. Colorful but us.

Do you like your living room? What does it look like? Do you feel like it is a reflection of you? Let me know!



Monday, November 10, 2014

Tour Through Blogland

Happy Monday! What an oxymoron!
Anyways, I was asked by the wonderful Melissa at The Rambling Llama to participate in the Blog Land Tour. As well as Emily from The Cozy Corner asked me to write about my writing process and they happen to be the same questions! I am really excited to be apart of it and Melissa is so great for asking me to do it!

So without further ado:

What are you working on now? Well, a few things. But the three main ones are: 
  • Yoga Page - If you follow my Instagam you know I dabble in the art of Yoga but I am working on a page entirely dedicated to my progress. Simply because I think everyone can do yoga and there are so many benefits and I want to show all you have to do is start and you will get better and gain the benefits.
  • Marriage Post - Writing about marriage is one of the reasons I started this blog and I have a post in the works that I am (hopefully) going to be really proud of!
  • Guest Post Series - I want to have a weekly guest poster in January I just am not sure of any sort of theme other than that!

How does your work differ from others in it's genre? Well besides the fact that I am a unique person and no one is going to be exactly like me - I just try to be honest. I don't like to paint a picture of something that isn't real. 

Why do you write/create what you do? Even though I wish life was candy canes, rainbows, and butterflies. The Reality is - it's hard, it can be ugly, and unenjoyable. So I want to be real and relatable and, approachable. I want you to feel at home here and that you can share anything with me and I will listen. So in summation, I write because I feel like I have something to say & because I hope you - reader- can not feel alone & know that you matter. And because I think I am hilarious (if we're being honest).

How does your writing/ creative process work? Basically I have about 8-10 post ideas in my drafts section at almost all time. They're usually just titles like "hiring ideas" "home tour" "am I the only one?" and then sometimes I have one or two ideas jotted down. So when it is time to write a post I go through there and pick one that I have pictures for and finish it. Or sometimes some inspiration hits me and I write a post and post it the next day in it's entirety. Some days I post nothing because I don't want to force it. [even though my page views like, plummet that day - oh the horror]

And now the next steps on the blog tour:

Kenji is seriously adorable. She is super girly but very down to earth. She writes about her life, adventures, and how fun and cute she is - not really but I just think she is precious haha. She is the life of the party, a super hard worker, a fur mama, lover of Karaoke, and a Rheumatoid Arthritis Warrior. All in all she is very inspiring and I reallllly think you need to go check her out!

Lora at Heart of Life-
Lora's blog is so cozy to me. I really love clicking around her cute lil "corner of the www" as she puts it! Lora is a Drinker of hot tea and black coffee. Harry Potter fanatic. Lover of Luke Bryan and Cole Swindell. She loves soup and curling up with a blanket. she is old fashioned, a bit of a geek, and believes that love makes the world go around. She grew up in Tennessee and will always be a southern girl at heart no matter where her feet are planted. Sit back, grab a cup of tea, curl up in your favorite fluffy blanket, and stay a while on her blog. 

Wednesday, November 5, 2014

5 Tips to get The Job


I am not a Human Resource Director, no ma'am I am not. Nor am I a HR Recruiter, no I turned down that position. I do however answer the phone at a company with nearly 900 employees. I also work as the assistant to the HR department, and I am very close with the peeps who do the hiring. So I know a thing or two about getting a job. So, since I am an endless fount of knowledge I figured it is only right for me bestow this information on you - the job seeker.

Obviously, be confident. You're selling yourself to the recruiter. Ya what them to think you are just grand. But here comes my first tip: go ahead and take a shower before you show up to your interview. I understand you might be interviewing for a dirty job, but you don't need to show up covered in dirt and smelling like BO - that's just rude.


Remember who your interview is with when you come.  "I have an interview today" "ok and who is your interview with?" [insert excuse here] I've heard every excuse in the book "Oh I just forgot it when I got here" "I am just too excited I forgot it" "They never told me their name" Do I look like an idiot? I know they told you their name. It takes one second to write down the name, very little effort, write it on your hand for all I care. Similarly, when the company calls you for a phone interview LISTEN to the message before you call back to know who called you!


Remember: if they say don't call them, they'll call you - they mean it! People call all day, everyday checking on their interview, checking on applications, check on their background check. All this does is annoy the receptionist and slow down the hiring process. Every call you make, every message you leave slows it down. People are busy they don't have time to call you and update you on every step of the way. They will probably only call if they want to move forward. If they haven't called there is either no answer or they don't want to move forward. 


Don't give the receptionist 'tude! Hi, that's me, and I actually know the person you are trying to get to hire you. It's not my fault they didn't answer your call, and I cannot make them appear in the office - do don't take that tone with me, Missy! I might be below you, beneath you, or just a roadblock trying stop you from getting a job but, I am just doing my job, informing you to leave them a message and IF they want to move forward AND have an answer THEY WILL CALL YOU!!!!


When you call to get information, have a pen handy. Say you're meeting someone for an interview at a neutral location. Because they are a statewide company and if for whatever reason they "didn't" give you their cell phone number. So you call the main office for directions, a phone number, an email, what have you and I start giving you the message and then you say "hold on I need to find a pen" and/or "I have to pullover" I'm sorry did you not just seek me out for information?!? HAVE A PEN HANDY!

Disclaimer: these tips might not apply to every business. Sometimes hounding the company and being annoying...er, eager...can help you get the job. 

Do you have any other tips to add? Did you find these tips helpful?


Currently




This is my very first Currently Link up and I am very excited to see what it is all about!

WISHLISTING - Um everything? With Christmas coming up, I keep adding to my mental list. But my #1 would be: new yoga clothes

CREATING - I am planning out my Christmas decorations 

READING - I am trying to get through Interrupted by Jen Hatmaker - but ironically I keep getting interrupted! I am also trying to get into my Blogging for Books book. But #realtalk I am reading blogs.

LOVING - My sweet work friends that I am getting ready to leave

APPRECIATING - My husband. Not only is he the hottest man alive, but he is the funniest. The other night he was talking in his sleep but he tried to cover it up..let me just replay this moment for you.

Me - ::awake and texting Stephanie::
Philip- I wish she would have kept her name tag on!"
Me: "Are you talking in your sleep again?"
Philip: "No! I am awake and I know what I am saying!"
Me: "Ok then who had a name tag"
Philip: --sleeping again --

Maybe that isn't funny to you. But it's funny to me!! 

So tell me, what are you Currently doing?? 

Tuesday, November 4, 2014

Communing with Others - Community.


I have been apart of The Peony Project for just a smidgen amount of time but I already loved every minute of it so far! Today is the first of a monthly Link Up and the prompt is: Community. Disclaimer: Not the TV show, Community. 

I recently wrote about Community from a Biblical stand point. My Pastor had preached on Community and it really resonated with me. So - go read that if you just can't get enough of thoughts on Community.

Here's the thing. I love Community. I crave Community. I just always want to be in Community. I have a really hard time watching TV or movies with people because I would rather get-to-freakin'-know-ya! (that's a thing - I swear) I want to know your hopes, dreams, fears, strengths, funny, stories etc! I want to know it all. So instead I looove to play BOARD GAMES. mmhmm - yes. oh and I really love Catch Phrase!

The good news is: I have community!
Blogging: I love blogging because I have found such an encouraging community - people are very positive and kind. I have loved being apart of this! 
Church: I love my church because there is such a great community of people that are ready and willing to meet each others needs and be a friend if they need it. 
Family: I just have the best family, I also married into the best family. I know I am so lucky a lot of people do not have as good of a relationship with their families. My family - even extended to my cousins - is super close. We don't hang out all the time, but when we do get together it is like nothing ever changed. We all laugh and (play board games!)
Friends: I love my friends - I have amazing friends. 

Community, to me,  is vital. I don't know if that is dramatic. But I really believe it is. Listen, folks, God in His very nature is Communal. He is 3 in 1. The Trinity. That is built in Community. 

So those are my thoughts. Now I want to know your thoughts. Does Community mean as much to you as it does to me? Do you belong to a great Community???


Sunday, November 2, 2014

November Goals


Dang it is already November! Ca. Ra. Zay! 

Since last month was my first month setting goals I didn't have goals to catch cha up on but this month I do! So, let's see how I did!

October Goals:

  • Read half of Interrupted by Jen Hatmaker HA! Didn't even crack that one open again.
  • Don't go crazy from training M-F 7-11PM for 4 weeks I survived! It was rough and I was tired but I did it and I passed my certification!
  • Carve Pumpkins with my husband. nope.
  • Keep up with my yoga practice 1x/week with the exception of 1 week I did this! I am so glad I did!
  • And finally, blog 3x a week and build my blogging skills and make blog friends I actually went above and beyond this! I blogged 4-5 times a week and made a bunch of blog friends - it was awesome!

    So here are the November Goals:
    1. Read 100% of my Blogging for Books book! If I finish that - start Interrupted again.
    2. Yoga 3x/week again
    3. Not only blog 3-5 times a week but good content - come up with a game plan for December
    4. Find at least 2 guest post idea for December and contact people to do them
    5. Get Philip a great birthday gift
    6. Make a meal planning schedule and meal plan for 2 weeks 
    That's all I am going to do - only 6. I want to set reasonable goals you see - small attainable goals or else I just quit.

    Do you have any goals for November? Tell me about them!!